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I’ll offer a few words of caution having experienced, in my strata, an extreme gas-lighter with easily identifiable textbook antisocial personality disorders, which will often be the case.
First, certainly get a copy of The Sociopath Next Door by Martha Stout PhD (copies in most libraries and many references on line) and possibly also Taming Toxic People by David Gillespie.
I’d suggest the person in question isn’t going to be shut down or go away. If they appear to, rest assured, they’ll be back. The person sounds like a psychopath or sociopath. Martha Stout has a list of seven character traits and if you can identify four or five, you’re almost certainly dealing with one.
Taking this person on might buy you a world of pain. Both authors of the books mentioned above say simply have as little to do with them as possible, ignore them as best you can and ‘live well’ yourself’. They just might lose interest but almost definitely won’t if you take them on.