Just confirming Lady Penelope’s comments – In NSW, the Chairperson is not responsible for the day to day activities of a strata scheme – eg. calling meetings, engaging with the SM – that is the role of the Secretary.
It may be that your SM is upset with you for seeming to take charge. But having said that, SM should have the ability to discuss and explain to you without causing offence.
If more than one committee member (usually the Secretary) conducts email exchanges with SM they can be overwhelmed. After all, if a committee has 9 members they cannot all do their own thing.
It seems to me that your committee should meet to review the roles of office-bearers and clear up any confusion. That may also go so me way to fostering a team approach.
Sounds like you are a proactive person, so swapping your role to Secretary may work better for everyone.