Thom – whilst I can see where you’re coming from, Rebekah’s reference to a soap opera and your Judge Judy analogy may both be good descriptors of what will likely be the consequence of her pursuing your suggested evidence gathering approach (my interpretation) with her Strata Manager.
Rebekah is an Owner, and we still don’t know if she received a warning letter or a Notice to Comply or if in the latter case the correct procedures for issuing that were followed, but subject to any further information that she may yet provide, I do agree with your suggestion that “it might be more productive to simply apologise (or at least be apologetic) for kids being kids” and to move on.