You don't have to attend anything (including EC meetings, believe it or not). This idiot can call all the meetings with whomever he wants but he is subject to the same rules as everyone else. The Owners Corporation in General Meeting is the ultimate arbiter of what happens in your strata plan. Even the EC can be overruled by the owners at a general meeting. eOne disgruntled owner has no power to order anyone to do anything. He has the opportunity to convince other owners he is right either at a general meeting or by campaigning the rest of the time. If he is unhappy he can raise the issues at Fair Trading where they will holf a mediation (and you don't need to attend that either).
Tell him to grow up, leave you alone, and go and read the Fair Trading booklet Strata Living (HERE) and the Strata Act (HERE) then he should highlight the part that says he can force you to attend a meeting organised by him or anyone else. Then tell him to look at the budget and identify areas where you can make savings without reducing services. If he can come up with anything, all well and good – but expect a long period of silence.
As to why people complain but do nothing, it's because some people are givers and others are takers and that's just the way the world is.