Yes, agreed, all have valid points of view. There is absolutely no need for defaming or name calling. So unneccessary. It is all in the perspective and or history of the noisemaker so perhaps one could put themselves in the shoes of the other. We, in apartment living are in close proximity to others, there are valid complaints and there are vexatious complaints. But the thing is that living so close to others we need to have some flexibility and some consideration to all. People do need to live their lives which includes an occasional celebration. When that occurs I like JT have earplugs. If it is a regular thing and a problem it needs addressing formally. I have had many regular noisemakers that needed formal letters. In my own case I had not entertained in my home for 5 years(my housewarming) then had 2 friends for drinks on a long weekend which happened to coincide with a new enemy in my building who decided to call police at 9pm to complain about my talking on the balcony, the police laughed when invited inside but this is sometimes a situation when you have many people in a building, some not seeing eye to eye or perhaps have some personal vendetta. I suspect CBRs situation is similar. If you expect in shared living to have complete silence, well unfortunately you should perhaps be looking at moving to an acreage property where perhaps the noise of the wildlife may bother you. But this comment does not disregard true noise makers. I know them and have heard them. I am not one.
I feel you need to look at sharing space with due consideration, from both sides. But consider this, you buy a great apartment with either city views or a large space balcony or a garden, you turn 30, 40, 50, 60,70, get engaged, married, silver anniversary, die, have a baby, whatever, want to use this great space you bought for this purpouse to enjoy, to celebrate your life and just this one off occasion gets a complaint from a noise nazi, completely destroys your enjoyment of this special time of your life, for what? Cheers and Peace CBF