I don’t think you are being anal, just doing the right thing. The solicitor on the other hand is very naughty, what if you relied on that and later on something went wrong because of it?
A lot here transferred to someone on the death of her parents, I noticed that on the death of her father it wasn’t changed to just the name of her mother, but then when the mother died there was nothing from the solicitor either. That created a problem for her at the next AGM, her proxy wasn’t valid because she wasn’t on the roll as the owner. The solicitor should have done that.