I think the key to sorting Considerate Band Fair’s (CBF’s) hassles might be really accurate recording of minutes, even actually audio RECORDING the meetings if that’'s possible, and legal, which I believe it is.
Do you have a Strata Manager, CBF? If so, maybe you should have the meetings at their premises for a while with the Strata Manager as Chair, rather than have them yourselves which, granted, saves you money.
If you’re self-managed, perhaps you could hire a freelance chairman or local solicitor with the skills you need for a meeting or two. Are there such people around?
(Question for Struggler: Strugs, I hear your last sentence and agree completely, but how can I expose and stymie the EC members where I live as having committed the by-law breaches they have—illegal renos, land grabbing common garden to name but two—without getting very personal?)