Hi Whale,
I am unsure of your advice with this one, as it simply doesn’t seem to be a strata issue to me.
If the strata manager has written a notice to comply… He / she must be watching Judge Judy or some other tripe on the TV to have issued this without hearing ‘both sides’ of the story… Besides, it may be a police issue and the strata manager has just stepped over the line (unreasonably biased).
I wouldn’t call this strata managers conduct unusual… I’d call it outright petty and possibly even bitchy… but fundamentally unhelpful as it can only be considered inflammatory (as proven by this thread)!
It seems the issue has been elevated to the point were parents are using their kids to harass other owners… and that is nothing short of disgraceful. Either way, if parents don’t get one with each other it’s simply the kids who will suffer!
Rebekah,
I’d insist the strata manager forward you a copy the written complaints to assess for yourself, together with the agenda, motions and resolutions passed that resulted in the issuing of a notice to comply.
Then, once you have the full documented facts in front of you, I’d calmly consider how best to resolve your differences with the other two neighbours with the goal to start acting reasonable towards each other.
Do this before ANY of the kids start to suffer for what appears to be a petty dispute.
As for the Strata Manager, instruct them that you will personally hold them fully responsible for any ‘fallout’ as a result of their unprofessional conduct!
What a mess, if it seems like it cannot be resolved and you only rent, consider moving somewhere less ‘lord of the flies’ but don’t inflame tensions with your neighbours until at least you can assess their complaints for yourself.
Its worth considering that kids do tend to ’embellish’ when reporting back to their parents and while I’m not taking sides on this one, that’s usually a good ‘excuse’ to help defuse an otherwise silly situation… who knows!?!
No matter who’s at fault, it might be more productive to simply apologise for kids being kids.
Remember, strata living is not suppose to be a prison or school yard… but a ‘community’ environment were we are suppose to look out for each other, not act as bully. I have a niece who committed suicide over bullying, so I hope you can all patch things up well before it goes too far… or you’ll all regret it!
Thom