Thanks DaveB for your insight. The two owners I’m friends with are also on the executive committee, and it turns out they didn’t attend the last meeting at which this complaint against my family was raised. They found out about it when they were c’ced into the email that was sent to my real estate agent (well, my landlord’s property manager).
They both said they thought it was petty/exaggerated and would have discouraged the action of contacting the real estate if they’d been at the meeting. And yes, they’re biased because they know me, but it was a fairly minor matter. They would have volunteered to speak to me about it instead of doing the real estate-reporting thing, so the issue still would have been addressed.
I am happy to own it if we’ve done the wrong thing, but from what you say it seems like the process hasn’t been undertaken fairly. I guess I worry about the risk to my tenancy – I have a flawless record thus far, and now I’ve been reported as a problem tenant within weeks of moving in to a new place. Not exactly reassuring. Now I’m paranoid that if we breathe in the wrong direction we’ll receive a breach notice!