QUESTION: My problem isn’t that my flatmate is bad … she’s too good. She went through a tough time recently but she was helped by a church group and now she is so “holier than thou” it’s driving me mad.
I don’t want to bring men friends home because I’ll get dirty looks and a lecture the next morning. Ironically, she’s the one who used to play up worst but every time I remind her I get this pious look of caring and sharing.
Can I ask her to leave? Her name is on the lease and we are co-tenants but I found the flat. Apart from living with Mother Theresa, I love it here. – Badgal, Alexandria.
ANSWER: Your friend was obviously vulnerable and it’s good she was helped rather than harmed but you are clearly uncomfortable in your own home and one of you is going to have to go. Tell her you think, in fairness, it should be her as she’s the one who changed.
But she has as much legal right to be there as you do and if she refuses to budge you might want to try the free mediation services offered by Community Justice Centres (phone 1800 990 777 in business hours). Or you could pray for divine intervention.
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